7 Keys to Attracting Health, Wealth and Happiness

pebblesRemember a time when you felt like you were “in the flow?” Imagine breathing easily as everything lines up effortlessly. Opportunities show up. You are supported in being your best. You feel good, you look good. You like the people around you. You enjoy this moment and you look forward to the future.

Here’s the good news. There is a formula for this outrageous attraction. It isn’t a secret. Perhaps no one taught it to you, yet I suspect you have known it in your heart all along. All you need to do is practice it.

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Your Personal Key to Business Success

key_to_successHow are things going for you? Do you want to get more of what you are already experiencing? Or do you want to improve? The definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

While blaming takes away your power, justifying your position blinds you to possibilities. Your desire to be “right” in your choice eliminates other alternatives and wastes your time.

When I was learning to dance, my teacher would go through the room during our exercises to give corrections. We were asked to shift our weight, align our feet or straighten out knees. One day after I had gotten a correction, the teacher stopped and looked at me. He asked, “Do you realize that you always have an excuse?”

I had just finished saying that my shoes were too tight and my leg sore. I was doing my best. My complaints were true for me. Then I learned a lesson I never forgot. Berle Davis, my mentor and teacher, looked me in the eye and said, “The audience doesn’t care. They will never ask you. All that matters is that you make the correction. You don’t need to say anything.”

That day changed my life. I quit justifying my actions. I take feedback and put it into action, and advise my clients to do the same. Feedback comes in all forms. It may be criticism or praise from clients. It may be the numbers in your checking account. It may be an audience who is either enthralled or yawning.

You will succeed in business much faster and easier if you stop justifying your actions. Simply accept feedback and make changes right away. Apologize when it is necessary and resolve to improve your personal best.

Are You Following the Winds of Fortune?

MoneyWindMillLast Sunday I stood on a bluff in Santa Monica overlooking the ocean.  A dozen sailboats spread across the horizon, enjoying a beautiful Southern California day.

Although it’s been years since I sailed, it’s something you don’t forget.  Each sailing trip is unique.  One time I floated along, almost dozing, as the boat lapped through the water.  Another trip, I negotiated 20 foot waves for hours to keep the boat upright.  Even when you check the weather in advance there are no guarantees for smooth sailing.

Life is like that too.  Unpredictable.   Buffeted by the changing winds of circumstance, we are all captains of our own ship.  I offer a few things I have learned from sailing as ways to cross your own outrageous sea.

You set the course, no matter which way the wind blows.  Sailing is an art – feeling the pulse of the wind, setting the sails to capture the gusts and move the boat forward.  It is your determination and direction that takes you forward.  The very force of the wind against you drives you to your goal.  Navigating  your business plan may be no less challenging.  Successful people feel the pull of their heart and the whispers of intuition.

You set your own course.

It’s rare that you move in a straight line.  Be willing to change course frequently.  Life is just like that – port and then starboard, and back again.   Keep a taut sail, but be willing to change direction.  Be aware of the horizon and your goals at all times.  Otherwise the changing winds and tides can confuse you.

Expect change and adjust.

Be careful of the lull.  As you tack from one side to another there is a momentary place where the sails flap, noisy and seemingly out of control.  It can be a frightening moment of indecision and doubt.  In that moment you decide the next turn.  It may be the moment you decide whether to leave a marriage, or start a new business, or move to a new community. There is no right answer.

The only danger is stopping in the middle.  You must move forward and fill your sails.  The lull of self-doubt is natural.  Welcome it as a sign that you are changing.  Welcome it as the progress that it truly demonstrates.  And move on.

Self-doubt happens when you are changing, keep moving.

If you persist you’ll get there.  The timing isn’t up to you.  Winds and waves have their own rhythm.  You can steer and set the sails.  Then be patient and enjoy the ride.   Keep your eye on the compass and move toward your goal.

You will reach your goals, at exactly the right time for you.

When the wind is pushing you forward, enjoy.  Then, to sail beyond your wildest imagination – make the extra effort to put up your spinnaker.

When you have been grinding hard to move upwind, it is natural to take it easy and relax when the wind is behind you.  It takes a little extra effort to pull out the spinnaker.  Yet it you have ever seen a boat being pulled along by the half balloon at its bow, you can understand the sheer exuberance of a winner.  Take the extra step.

Celebrate at the top of your game, rejoice and dance through the waves, spinnaker flying.

Step back from the daily grind and feel the wind in your face.  Look up and keep your goals in sight.  You are the captain of your ship.  Glad to come aboard and share the journey!

Kick-Start Your Motivation!

financialfreedom2Procrastination and wasting time are common ailments.  Even if you lose only a few hours a week to them, it can be annoying.  Why?  Because you may realize that you didn’t really ENJOY the wasted time.  If you had actually planned to take that time off, you might have done something much more enjoyable and relaxing.  And if you had been more intentional, you might be seeing profound improvements in your business.

If you are ready to rev up your motivation, here is the place to start:

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Farewell, Dear Friend… I Love You

Today I am sharing a personal message.  A piece of my life is shifting.

Dear Friend, It has been a long journey together.  Since 1993 you have shared my life, seen it all, and been there to support me.  What a ride we have had together.

I remember the first time I saw you.  My son, Patrick, was an expert in finding and negotiating the best car he could find for me.  There you were.  Your silver shine with a beautiful depth, and luxurious leather seats.  A special sound system that could become a concert hall or a jazz club with the click of a button.  And a smooth, silent engine that sometimes had me guessing whether you were running or not.  My 1993 Acura Vigor.  An all-time classic in the making.

Today your shine has dulled from years of sitting in the sun and rain.  Your leather seats have held up well.  They only have a few cracks and are still comfortable.  The sound system broke long ago, but it was for the best.  I prefer to drive with my own thoughts or to share them only with you, my silent friend, my dear car.

You have given me your all.  You have taken me from your maiden drive to over 280,000 miles.  And you have been supportive and reliable all the way.  22 years we have shared.

The early years were very busy.  Shortly after you arrived some of our personal challenges began.  There was a time when we had 4 drivers all vying to use you.  Corinne, Patrick and Lauren and I had to share you.  We were dropping each other off and you were almost always on the road.  I think you clocked 50,000 miles that year.  You never complained.

You took me to the hospital during Corinne’s last days.  I remember sliding into your seat and still sensing Corinne right there with us.  You witnessed lots of tears.  You helped me be brave when I loaded you up with all my belongings and started life again after my marriage had fallen apart.   You moved me to Southern California to transition to a new era of my life.  You took me on countless dates for 15 years as a single woman.  And YES, we shared lots of laughs over some of those dates.

Strangely, I always felt that you were there for me.  You were reliable and got me where I needed to be.  I got into the habit of saying a prayer of gratitude whenever I got into the driver’s seat.  “Thank you for being here for me.  Thank you for being so reliable, and beautiful.  Thank you for being part of my life and reminding me that God is here and always with me.”   While there were a few repairs, you were the most amazing car I have ever had.  You didn’t get out of alignment.  You never left me in a difficult spot.  You truly deserved the gratitude that I offered.

You were my symbol of God being with me through the biggest crisis events in my life.  Your sunroof allowed me to see the heavens above, and the beauty of nature along the way.  I never gave up.  I always knew that spirit was guiding my way, and you would take me there.

Now, it is hard to say goodbye.  We all get older over time, and things don’t work as well as they once did.  Unfortunately, I can’t get the parts to keep you running reliably.  I’m coming to terms with the fact that my own parts are wearing down as well.  I can still service mine and keep them going for (hopefully) quite some time.  But it is a different matter for your parts.

I didn’t think it would be this hard to let you go.  I have a new husband to be here with me and dry my tears.  I have wonder and joy in my life.  You brought me to a good place, full of hope and vision.   Yet when I saw that you would go to a “local dismantler”, I fell apart.

I pledge to you.  Nothing of our past together will be dismantled.  I will honor all that we learned together.  I will continue to love and trust and be grateful each day for all the good around me.  You will always be a symbol of God’s love.  Forever.